February 24, 2014 

The Just-World Phenomenon: 

• Belief that those who suffer deserve their fate. 

Reciprocity Norm 

• Expectation that people will help help those who have only helped them (you).

Social Responsibility

• Expectation that people will help those who depend on them. 

Attractions: 

Proximity 

• Geographic nearness
• Mere Exposure effect: repeated exposure to something breeds liking. 
•  Mirror image concept (people know who you belong too.. "You two should date."

Reciprocal Liking 

• You are more likely to like someone who likes you.
• Except in elementary school!!! 

Similarity 

• Paula Abdul was wrong- opposites do NOT attract. 
• Birds of the same feather do flock together.
• Similarity breeds content.

Physical Attractiveness 

Some people say beauty is facial symmetry

Love 

• Passionate Love: an aroused state of intense positive absorption of another.
• Compassionate Love: the deep affectionate attachment we feel for those with whom our lives are interwined.

What makes compassionate love work? 

• Equity- fairness; both pitch in
• Self- disclosure- no secrets in the relationship. 

Altruism 

• Unselfish regard for the welfare of others. 
• Kitty Genovese case.
• Bystander Effect (bystanders less willing to help if there are other bystanders around). 

Social Exchange Theory 

• The idea that our social behavior is an exchange process, which we maximize benefits and minimize costs. 

Peacemaking 

• Give people superordinate (shared) goals that can only be achieved through cooperation. 
• Win win situations through mediation. 
• GRIT (Graduated and Reciprocated Initiatives in Tension Reduction).